Liza Cherney, left, and Brittany Loring, right, lead the procession of graduates of the Carroll School of Management during commencement ceremonies at
Liza Cherney, left, and Brittany Loring, right, lead the procession of graduates of the Carroll School of Management during commencement ceremonies at Boston College in Boston, Monday, May 20, 2013. The two women were injured in the Boston Marathon bombings on April 15, with Loring needing three operations after her left leg was struck by shrapnel from the first of the twin blasts. Cherney was standing next to her close friend and classmate Loring and was also badly hurt. (AP Photo/Elise Amendola) (Elise Amendola/)

The media template for stories about higher education costs has been that ever higher charges for tuition, fees, room and board are making it increasingly more difficult for students and their parents to finance college.

Indeed, college costs are rising. The College Board Advisory and Policy Center reports that in the past 30 years, tuition and fees for in-state students at four-year public institutions have increased 257 percent, from $2,423 to $8,655.

However, a new report by Sallie Mae, the largest financial services company specializing in education, suggests that parents, students and colleges are all adjusting to the increases.

Perhaps the most surprising finding in How America Pays for College runs counter to the current conventional wisdom. Spending on college in the past two academic years has dropped 17 percent from a high in 2010, from $24,097 to $21,178.

That's because students, their families and colleges have figured out a variety of ways to cope with college costs.

The Sallie Mae report found:

Fifty-seven percent of families reported the student lived at home or with relatives in the last academic year, up from 51 percent the previous year and 44 percent in 2011. Half of all students who work to help pay for their college increased their hours in 2013 and one-quarter of students raised their course load to graduate in less time. Sixty-seven percent of families eliminated colleges based on cost, so students and parents are shopping around for the best higher education bargain. Colleges and universities are making more aid money available and more students are taking advantage of it. Grants and scholarships paid for 30 percent of college costs for the average family in 2013, up from 25 percent before the recession. More families are planning ahead, with 17 percent of families used Section 529 college savings plans in the last academic year, higher than any other year.

It does appear, however, that more of the burden of paying for college is falling on the student.

The Sallie Mae report says while parents' annual average out-of-pocket spending has dropped 35 percent since 2010 to $5,727, student borrowing is rising. The amount borrowed by students last year through federal loans was $8,815.

Still, grants and scholarships make up the largest share of the cost of going to college (30 percent) while student and parent borrowing, along with parent income and savings, each comprise 27 percent.

Naturally, most families worry about paying for college, but not as much as you might think. During the recession, half of parents were extremely worried about rising tuition, but that number is now down to 28 percent.

Sallie Mae found that families still believe college is an important investment in the future, and ever-ingenious Americans are figuring out ways to pay for it.